Copacabana, Rio de Janeiro: 24oC, warm and Sunny and slightly overcast.
It is the middle of the week, and it is just Yasmin and me. Nalva is travelling for work in Sao Paulo, and until now, nobody has died. Two are a company, but three are a crowd. It seems to be something like that, and probably, in some ways, it is true. I have two interesting things today.
The first is that I repaired two shorts that I like to wear when I am exercising or just at home on an informal basis. These shorts have a cord that runs through the inside of the waistband, so when you are wearing them, you can pull the two ends of the cord and tighten it around your waist so that the shorts are not too loose. Then, you need to make a knot to hold them tight so they do not fall or get too loose.
In both the shorts, both the cords had come out of the shorts in the wash. In the past, I would have taken them to a seamstress friend to have them done, but I was determined to do them myself.
I want to exercise tomorrow, so at least one needs to be done today, if not both, and I did it! I managed to thread the cords through the waistbands of both shorts relatively quickly without any hassle at all.
It sounds stupid or silly, but I was so happy for the rest of the day to resolve that small problem. Finding a solution to minor problems or issues that take away our peace or bother us often makes us feel satisfied and sound, making our day and life more rewarding and lighter.
When we put our minds to whatever we want or need to do, no matter how large or small, we can do whatever we want; it is just a question of focus.
The second was that Yasmin and I went to the local Portuguese baker’s again to have juice, a coffee, and a snack, no different from the other times before. Our conversation was interesting; Yasmin told me she did not like it so much that we all were living together.
I do not know how we got on to the subject, but we got there, and I tried my best not to let it show, but I was surprised.
She told me that she understood that it was for a temporary period and thought it was best that it would not be good if we were together for a long time. She also told me that I and her mother were completely different and that need to be apart and have separate lives. We talked for quite some time about what she had said, and again, I was surprised, as children usually like to see their together again.
I honestly do not know what to think or conclude from what she had said. Maybe it is easier for her to have her parents apart, for her to try to control us separately rather than together, which is quite selfish in a way. Or is it that seeing us together is strange, as we have been separated for such a long time?
I know a woman’s instinct is ultimately to want to build and aggregate. Perhaps Nalva still has strong feelings for me and would like us to be a couple again. This is impossible for me. I want her to be happy, but not with me. Let’s see.
We also talked about going to England, and I will probably have to apply for Yasmin’s passport before I go.
Talking to our children in a straight, frank, and sincere manner is good for us all. We must not lose contact or drift away from them, especially in their teenage and pre-adulthood lives.
Two nice, simple, and completely different things happened that were not planned but made my day. Thinking about it more, perhaps unplanned, spontaneous, non-controlled events are more important and have a bigger impact on our lives or are even more pleasing. All we need is the force, the will, and the courage to face our fears and traumas and begin, and the rest will happen.
The day itself was relatively typical for a Wednesday, with exercises, walks, work, and the little expected and unexpected things that make everything and life different.
In bed by 9.00 pm.
Thank you very much.
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Richard
